In the name of Allah most gracious most merciful
Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatahu
What is the significance of nursing?
According to numerous Prophetic traditions, foster relations are treated like blood relations in marital affairs. These relations can render one Muhram (i.e., unmarriageable), so he can visit his foster relatives and see them as he does his blood relatives.
Aflah asked the permission to visit me but I did not allow him. He said, "Do you veil yourself before me although I am your uncle?" `Aisha said, "How is that?" Aflah replied, "You were suckled by my other's wife with my brother's milk.* note-it means milk of brothers wife*" I asked Allah's Apostle about it, and he said, "Aflah is right, so permit him to visit you."
(Sahih-ul-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 48, Number 812)
Narrated Ibn `Abbas:
The Prophet said about Hamza's daughter, "I am not legally permitted to marry her, as foster relations are treated like blood relations (in marital affairs). She is the daughter of my foster brother."
(Sahih-ul-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 48, Number 813)
Narrated `Amra bint `Abdur-Rahman:
That `Aisha the wife of the Prophet told her uncle that once, while the Prophet was in her house, she heard a man asking Hafsa's permission to enter her house. `Aisha said, "I said, 'O Allah's Apostle! I think the man is Hafsa's foster uncle.' " `Aisha added, "O Allah's Apostle! There is a man
asking the permission to enter your house." Allah's Apostle replied, "I think the man is Hafsa's foster uncle." `Aisha said, "If so-and-so were living (i.e. her foster uncle) would he be allowed to visit me?" Allah's Apostle said, "Yes, he would, as the foster relations are treated like blood relations (in marital affairs). (Sahih-ul-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 48, Number 814)
Once the Prophet came to me while a man was in my house. He said, "O `Aisha! Who is this (man)?" I replied, "My foster brothers" He said, "O `Aisha! Be sure about your foster brothers, as fosterage is only valid if it takes place in the suckling period (before two years of age).
(Sahih-ul-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 48, Number 815)
THIS HADITH IS OF SAHLA BINT SUHAIL IS CONSIDERED TO BE A PIECE FOR
HYPOCRITES TO MOCK.WHEN IN REALITY ITS AN ACT OF SHEER MERCY OF PROPHET
' A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Sahla bint Suhail came to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) and said: Messenger of Allah, I see on the face of Abu Hudhaifa (signs of disgust) on entering of Salim (who is an ally) into (our house), whereupon Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) said: Suckle him. She said: How can I suckle him as he is a grown-up man? Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) smiled and said: I already know that he is a young man. 'Amr has made this addition in his narration that he participated in the Battle of Badr and in the narration of Ibn 'Umar (the
words are): Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) laughed.
(Sahih Muslim, Volume 5, Book 8, Number 3424)
Muhammad Ibn ‘Umar told us: Muhammad Ibn ‘Abdullah, Az-Zuhri’s nephew, told us on authority of his father that he said: an amount of one milk drink was collected in a pot or glass, so Salem used to drink it every day, for five days. After this, he used to enter at her while her head is uncovered. This
was permission from Messenger of Allah to Sahla bint Suhail.
(Ibn Sa’d, Kitab At-Tabaqat Al-Kabir, Volume 10, page 257. Also, Ibn Hajar,
Al-Isabah, Volume 7, page 717)
-This VERSE was revealed in mecca 57 SURAH as per order of revelation.
31:14 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.
2 years were generally considered as weaning period,but it was not a standard law prescribed by Allah.
-Surah Ahzab ,90 as per order of revealation & NOT BY THE PRESENT ORDER,salim was expected not to meet sahla . Salim was an adopted son,but after this verse the concept of adopted sons was abolished.so it was not liked by Abu Hudhayfa ibn Utba ibn Rabia , a person who is not even part
of family-relations is entering his house.
33:5 Call them by (the names) of their fathers: that is juster in the sight of Allah but if ye know not their father's (names call them) your Brothers in faith or your Maulas. But there is no blame on you if ye make a mistake therein: (what counts is) the intention of your hearts: and Allah is
Oft-Returning Most Merciful. so prophet out of sheer mercy commanded permitted nursing.
later revealed the law , 2 years for weaning.After this,it is always 2 years only.87 surah as per revealation,not by present order.
2:233 The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms. No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear. No mother shall be treated unfairly on
account of her child nor father on account of his child. An heir shall be chargeable in the same way if they both decide on weaning by mutual consent and after due consultation there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring there is no blame on you provided ye pay (the mother) what ye offered on equitable terms. But fear Allah and know that Allah sees well what ye do.
So, the purpose of the Prophet’s permission to Sahla bint Suhail was to make Salem her foster son in order that he could approach her as a son approaches his mother.
As per Aisha RA ,if a person wants to make someone mahram ,then during childhood till age 2 ,if children are nursed , as per laws limts of 2 years then that child becomes a mahram.Firstly it was 10 suckings later it was abrogated with 5.though one should be careful as not to make such relations
too may unless and until in dire necessity either to help an orphan or something similar which serves as gud in general.other wise simply marriageable options will reduce.
Suckling of Older People
Yahya related to me from Malik from Ibn Shihab that he was asked about the suckling of an older person. He said, ''Urwa ibn az-Zubayr informed me that Abu Hudhayfa ibn Utba ibn Rabia, one of the companions of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, who was present at Badr, adopted Salim (who is called Salim, the mawla of Abu Hudhayfa) as the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, adopted Zayd ibn Haritha. He thought of him as his son, and Abu Hudhayfa married him to his brother's sister, Fatima bint al-Walid ibn Utba ibn Rabia, who was at
that time among the first emigrants. She was one of the best unmarried women of the Quraysh. When Allah the Exalted sent down in His Book what He sent
down about Zayd ibn Haritha, 'Call them after their true fathers. That is more equitable in the sight of Allah. If you do not know who their fathers
were then they are your brothers in the deen and your mawali,' (Sura 33 ayat 5) people in this position were traced back to their fathers. When the
father was not known, they were traced to their mawla. "Sahla bint Suhayl who was the wife of Abu Hudhayfa, and one of the tribe of
Amr ibn Luayy, came to the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, 'Messenger of Allah! We think of Salim as a son and he
comes in to see me while I am uncovered*note:uncovering of head*. We only have one room, so what do you think about the situation?' The Messenger of
Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Give him five drinks of your milk and he will be mahram by it.' She then saw him as a foster son.
A'isha umm al-muminin took that as a precedent for whatever men she wanted to be able to come to see her. She ordered her sister, Umm Kulthum bint Abi
Bakr as-Siddiq and the daughters of her brother to give milk to whichever men she wanted to be able to come in to see her. The rest of the wives of
the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, refused to let anyone come in to them by such nursing. They said, 'No! By Allah! We think that
what the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, ordered Sahla bint Suhayl to do was only an indulgence concerning the
nursing of Salim alone. No! By Allah! No one will come in upon us by such nursing!' "This is what the wives of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, thought about the suckling of an older person."note:*adult nursing was for salim only*
Suckling of the Young
Yahya related to me from Malik from Nafi that Salim ibn Abdullah ibn Umar informed him that A'isha umm al-muminin sent him away while he was being
nursed to her sister Umm Kulthum bint Abi Bakr as-Siddiq and said, "Suckle him ten times so that he can come in to see me." Salim said, "Umm Kulthum nursed me three times and then fell ill, so that she only nursed me three times. I could not go in to see A'isha because Umm
Kulthum did not finish for me the ten times." 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Salim, the freed slave of
Abu Hadhaifa, lived with him and his family in their house. She (i. e. the daughter of Suhail came to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) and said:
Salim has attained (purbety) as men attain, and he understands what they understand, and he enters our house freely, I, however, perceive that
something (rankles) in the heart of Abu Hudhaifa, whereupon Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) said to her: Suckle him and you would become
unlawful for him, and (the rankling) which Abu Hudhaifa feels in his heart will disappear. She returned and said: So I suckled him, and what (was
there) in the heart of Abu Hudhaifa disappeared.
(Sahih Muslim, Volume 5, Book 8, Number 3425)
Umm Salama said to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her): A young boy who is at the threshold of puberty comes to you. I, however, do not like that he
should come to me, whereupon 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) said: Don't you see in Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) a model for you? She
also said: The wife of Abu Hudhaifa said: Messenger of Allah, Salim comes to me and now he is a (grown-up) person, and there is something that (rankles)
in the mind of Abu Hudhaifa about him, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Suckle him (so that he may become your
foster-child), and thus he may be able to come to you (freely).
(Sahih Muslim, Volume 5, Book 8, Number 3427)
Zainab daughter of Abu Salama reported: I heard Umm Salama, the wife of Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon himy, saying to 'A'isha: By Allah, I do
not like to be seen by a young boy who has passed the period of fosterage, whereupon she ('A'isha) said: Why is it so? Sahla daughter of Suhail came to
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said: Allah's Messenger, I swear by Allah that I see in the face of Abu Hudhaifa (the signs of disgust)
on account of entering of Salim (in the house), whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Suckle him. She (Sahla bint Suhail) said: He
has a beard. But he (again) said: Suckle him, and it would remove what is there (_expression of disgust) on the face of Abu Hudhaifa. She said: (I did
that) and, by Allah, I did not see (any sign of disgust) on the face of Abu Hadhaifa.
(Sahih Muslim, Volume 5, Book 8, Number 3428)
‘Aisha herself that Allah’s Apostle (peace be upon him) said, “fosterage is only valid if it takes place in the suckling period (before two years of age).”
How many suckings makes fostreing relations?
Sahih Muslim HadithHadith 3421 Narrated byAisha
It had been revealed in the Qur'an that ten clear sucklings make the marriage unlawful, then it was abrogated (and substituted) by five sucklings
and Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) died and it was before that time (found) in the Qur'an (and recited by the Muslims).
Suckling in General
Yahya related to me from Malik from Abdullah ibn Abi Bakr ibn Hazm from Amra bint Abd ar-Rahman that A'isha, the wife of the Prophet, may Allah bless him
and grant him peace, said, "Amongst what was sent down of the Qur'an was'ten known sucklings make haram' - then it was abrogated by 'five known
sucklings'. When the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, died, it was what is now recited of the Qur'an."
Yahya said that Malik said, "One does not act on this."
Another instance of exceptional situation
Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 7.470 Narrated byAl Bara
One day Allah's Apostle offered the 'Id prayer and said, "Whoever offers our prayer and faces our Qibla should not slaughter the sacrifice till he
finishes the 'Id prayer." Abu Burda bin Niyar got up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have already done it." The Prophet said, "That is something you
have done before its due time." Abu Burda said, "I have a Jadha'a which is better than two old sheep; shall I slaughter it?" The Prophet said, "Yes,
but it will not be sufficient for anyone after you."
excerpts taken from source