In The Name Of Allah Most Gracious Most Merciful
Assalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatuallahi wa barakatuhu
Cursed Women Who Visited Graves
Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 1770 Narrated byAbuHurayrah
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) cursed women who visited graves
*Note:Initially it was forbidden to visit graves for women.
I Forbade You To Visit Graves, But You May Now Visit Them
Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 1769 Narrated byAbdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "I forbade you to visit graves, but you may now visit them, for they produce abstinence in this world and act as a reminder of the next."Ibn Majah transmitted it.
*Note:Later they were commanded to visit graves
Women Must Visit Graveyards
Book 004, Number 2127:(Sahih Muslim)
Muhammad b. Qais said (to the people): Should I not narrate to you (a hadith of the Holy Prophet) on my authority and on the authority of my mother? We thought that he meant the mother who had given him birth. He (Muhammad b. Qais) then reported that it was 'A'isha who had narrated this: Should I not narrate to you about myself and about the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him)? We said: Yes. She said: When it was my turn for Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) to spend the night with me, he turned his side, put on his mantle and took off his shoes and placed them near his feet, and spread the corner of his shawl on his bed and then lay down till he thought that I had gone to sleep. He took hold of his mantle slowly and put on the shoes slowly, and opened the door and went out and then closed it lightly. I covered my head, put on my veil and tightened my waist wrapper, and then went out following his steps till he reached Baqi'. He stood there and he stood for a long time. He then lifted his hands three times, and then returned and I also returned. He hastened his steps and I also hastened my steps. He ran and I too ran. He came (to the house) and I also came (to the house). I, however, preceded him and I entered (the house), and as I lay down in the bed, he (the Holy Prophet) entered the (house), and said: Why is it, O 'A'isha, that you are out of breath? I said: There is nothing. He said: Tell me or the Subtle and the Aware would inform me. I said: Messenger of Allah, may my father and mother be ransom for you, and then I told him (the whole story). He said: Was it the darkness (of your shadow) that I saw in front of me? I said: Yes. He struck me on the chest which caused me pain, and then said: Did you think that Allah and His Apostle would deal unjustly with you? She said: Whatsoever the people conceal, Allah will know it. He said: Gabriel came to me when you saw me. He called me and he concealed it from you. I responded to his call, but I too concealed it from you (for he did not come to you), as you were not fully dressed. I thought that you had gone to sleep, and I did not like to awaken you, fearing that you may be frightened. He (Gabriel) said: Your Lord has commanded you to go to the inhabitants of Baqi' (to those lying in the graves) and beg pardon for them. I said: Messenger of Allah, how should I pray for them (How should I beg forgiveness for them)? He said: Say, Peace be upon the inhabitants of this city (graveyard) from among the Believers and the Muslims, and may Allah have mercy on those who have gone ahead of us, and those who come later on, and we shall, God willing, join you.
Women Must Not Visit Graves Often
Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 1718 Narrated byIbn AbuMulaykah
When AbdurRahman ibn AbuBakr died in al-Hubshi, the name of a place, he was conveyed to Makkah and buried there. When Aisha arrived she went to the grave of AbdurRahman ibn AbuBakr and said: We were like the companions of Jadhimah for a long time, so that people said the two will never be separated. But when we separated it seemed, in spite of long association, as if Malik and I had not spent a single night together. She then said, "I swear by Allah that if I had been present with you, you would have been buried nowhere but where you died, and if I had been with you I should not have visited you."
Tirmidhi transmitted it.
Women Must Not Join Funeral Procession
Funerals (Kitab Al-Jana'iz) Dawud :: Book 20 : Hadith 3117
Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As:
We buried a deceased person in the company of the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him). When we had finished, the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) returned and we also returned with him. When he approached his door, he stopped, and we saw a woman coming towards him. He (the narrator) said: I think he recognized her. When she went away, we came to know that she was Fatimah.
The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said to her: What brought you out of your house, Fatimah?
She replied: I came to the people of this house, Apostle of Allah, and I showed pity and expressed my condolences to them for their deceased relation. The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said: You might have gone to the graveyard with them.
She replied: I seek refuge in Allah! I heard you referring to what you mentioned.
He said: If you had gone to the graveyard...He then mentioned severe words about it.
I then asked Rabi'ah (a narrator of this tradition) about al-kuda (stony land). He replied: I think it means the graves.
Al-Muwatta Hadith Hadith 16.36
The Prohibition Against Weeping Over the Dead
Yahya related to me from Malik from Abdullah ibn Abdullah ibn Jabir ibn Atik that Atik ibn al-Harith, the grandfather of Abdullah ibn Abdullah ibn Jabir on his mother's side, told him that Jabir ibn Atik had told him that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came to visit Abdullah ibn Thabit and found him in his death-throes. He called to him but he did not reply. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "We belong to Allah, and to Him we are returning," and added, "You are being taken from us, Abu'r-Rabi.'' The women cried out and wept, and Jabir began to silence them. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Leave them, and when the necessary time comes, none of the women should cry." They said, "Messenger of Allah, what is the necessary time?", and he replied, "When he dies." The dying man's daughter said, "By Allah, I hope that you will be a martyr, for you have completed your preparations for battle," and the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Allah has made his reward fall according to his intention. What do you consider dying a martyr to be?" They said, "Death in the way of Allah." The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "There are seven kinds of rnartyr other than those killed in the way of Allah. Someone who is killed by the plague is a martyr, someone who drowns is a martyr, someone who dies of pleurisy is a martyr, someone who dies of a disease of the belly is a martyr, someone who dies by fire is a martyr, someone who dies under a falling building is a martyr and a woman who dies in childbirth is a martyr."
'Be afraid of Allah and be patient
Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 9.268 Narrated byThabit Al Bunani
Anas bin Malik said to a woman of his family, "Do you know such-and-such a woman?" She replied, "Yes." He said, "The Prophet passed by her while she was weeping over a grave, and he said to her, 'Be afraid of Allah and be patient.' The woman said (to the Prophet). 'Go away from me, for you do not know my calamity.( Anas added, "The Prophet left her and proceeded. A man passed by her and asked her, 'What has Allah's Apostle said to you?' She replied, 'I did not recognize him.' The man said, 'He was Allah's Apostle.( Anas added, "So that woman came to the gate of the Prophet and she did not find a gate-keeper there, and she said, 'O Allah's Apostle! By Allah! I did not recognize you!' The Prophet said, 'No doubt, patience is at the first stroke of a calamity.(
Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 2.343 Narrated byAnas bin Malik
The Prophet passed by a woman who was sitting and weeping beside a grave and said to her, "Fear Allah and be patient."
Sahih Muslim HadithHadith 2007 Narrated byUmm Salamah
When AbuSalamah died I said: I am a stranger in a strange land, I shall weep for him in a manner that would be talked of. I made preparation for weeping for him when a woman from the upper side of the city came there who intended to help me (in weeping). She happened to come across the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and he said: Do you intend to bring the devil into a house from which Allah has twice driven him out? I (Umm Salamah), therefore, refrained from weeping and I did not weep.
The Dead Are Not Tormented By The Weeping Of The Living
Al-Muwatta Hadith Hadith 16.37
Yahya related to me from Malik from Abdullah ibn Abi Bakr from his father that Amra bint Abd ar-Rahman told him that she had heard A'isha, the umm al-muminin, say (when it was mentioned to her that Abdullah ibn Umar used to say, "The dead are tormented by the weeping of the living"), "May Allah forgive Abu Abd ar-Rahman. Of course he has not lied, but he has forgotten, or made a mistake. The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, passed by a jewish woman whose family were crying over her and he said, 'You are crying over her, and she is being tormented in her grave. ' "
*note:She is being tormented in her grave for her sins.
Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 1748 Narrated byAbdullah ibn Abbas
When Zaynab, the daughter of Allah's Messenger died and the women wept, Umar began to strike them with his whip, but Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) pushed him back saying, "Gently, Umar." He then said, "Beware of the devil's clamour," and added, "whatever comes from the eye and from the heart is from Allah, who is Great and Glorious and pertains to compassion, but that which comes from the hand and from the tongue is of the Devil." ,
Ahmad transmitted it.
Imàm Ja‘far al- Sàdiq narrated with his chain from al- Hasan ibn ‘Alï that Fàtima the daughter of the Prophet e– may Allàh be well-pleased with all of them! – used to visit the grave of her uncle Hamza ibn ‘Abd al-Muttalib every Jumu‘a
Narrated to here from Ja‘far ibn Muhammad, from his father, without mention of al- Hasan by ‘Abd al-Razzàq (3:572) with a broken(munqa ti‘) chain.] and she used to pray and weep there.
Narrated by al- Hàkim (1990 ed. 1:533, 3:30) who declared its chain sound, al-Bayhaqï, al-Sunan al-Kubrà (4:78), and Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr in al-Tamhïd (3:234) although al-Dhahabï condemns it strenuously while al-Bayhaqï alludes to its weakness.] Another version adds that she had marked the grave with a rock in order to recognize it.
Al-Athram and Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr narrated it as mentioned by al-Qurtubi in his Tafsir (10:381); also ‘Abd al-Razzaq (3:574) with a very weak chain because of al-Asbagh ibn Nubata, who is discarded (matruk) as a narrator.] Another version states that she used to tend the grave and repair any damage it had incurred. [26Al-Hakim al-Tirmidhi in Nawadir al-Usul (Asl 15)]
Allah knows best